Raising a teenager is probably the most challenging part of parenting. Once you have a teen you realize that those diaper days, terrible twos, and willful elementary school age years are a cake walk compared to raising a teen.
But even though you used to compare notes freely and often with other moms of younger age kids, once you have a teenager it seems that the talk among the parents is much more guarded and infrequent. At a time when you need more support, you find yourself with less. This article does a great job of diving deeper into this topic.
During the past few of years, I’ve noticed a trend. As more of my friends’ children are becoming teenagers, the parents begin to feel more isolated. It’s a concerning situation.
It doesn’t seem to have anything to do with location. Friends from every part of the country are expressing this. It doesn’t seem to have to do with gender. Parents of boys and girls feel the same. It doesn’t seem to have to do with religion. Those of every faith and no faith at all say similar things.
It seems that when you have young children, you get to confess openly your mistakes, your struggles, your fears, all of it. When you search your toddler’s pockets for contraband, that’s funny. Everyone giggles about the odd things sticky fingers managed to pick up and squirrel away when no one was looking. You get support. You get reassurance. You get the magical words, “Me too.”
When you search your teen’s room for contraband, people may or may not judge you as a parent, or more importantly, think your kid has some sort of moral failing. No one is laughing. No is reassuring you. Everyone one is uncomfortable and averting their eyes.
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