Absolutely no question that nobody is perfect. That applies to your kids and it applies to you as a parent as well. You may feel you are striving to be the best possible parent out there, and you may very well be. But even the best parents make some critical mistakes…not intentionally (most of the time, haha), and often not knowingly either.
Reading through this list of 12 mistakes this author discusses I found myself nodding my head in agreement more than once. These are basic, almost daily things that you can contemplate as to how you handle them in your household and perhaps, after reading this article, find some aspects of your parenting that you can improve on.
12 Big Parenting Mistakes Even Good Parents Make
1. Dismissing our children’s emotions.
As bona fide grown ups, we know there’s no valid reason to be scared of the big sliding board and that, in the grand scheme of things, it really doesn’t matter that they’re out of the pink donuts with purple sprinkles.
So when our children express strong reactions of fear, disappointment, or frustration to such menial or illogical situations, we tend to brush them off.
But while we have the perspective of what’s legitimately scary and what isn’t—and what’s a big deal and what isn’t—our kids don’t. What they’re feeling in that moment is very real and big to them.
While it’s important that we teach them perspective, it’s also essential that we acknowledge and validate their very real emotions.
2. Never letting them see you fail.
I’ve chatted with other adults who distinctly remember the moment they first realized their dad wasn’t Superman or their mom wasn’t perfect—and that it shook them to their core.
Should such realizations really come as such a shock to kids?
I think the more powerful life lesson is when children see their parents mess up—and then handle that mess up with dignity and integrity. That could mean confessing to a wrongdoing, apologizing for hurting someone, working to remedy a situation, and/or finding ways to grow stronger from it.
And yes, sometimes this means apologizing to our own kids when deep down we know we’ve failed them in some way.
3. Being more of a friend than a parent.
Most of us want our kids to like us, sure. But in the end, our title is parent, not best buddy.
When our focus is more on wanting our children to like us than it is on wanting our children to become respectful and responsible adults, that’s about us, not them. That’s aboutour need for validation. And it isn’t doing our children any favors in the long run.
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